Why Can’t I Be Happy Doing Nothing?

I wanted to come on here and write another chatty post because well, I’m in a chatty mood and I love to talk to all of you and see if you feel the same!

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This fine Sunday evening had me thinking about how I spend my time, most specifically my down time. Earlier on in the day I took part in a lovely Twitter chat over on the Tea Cup Club page (which is fab you must follow!) and they were talking about beauty routines and also how you organise your mental health. It got me thinking that I don’t actually ever set aside any time to just zone out, or relax.

If I’m watching a film, I will also have to be on my laptop editing pictures, or on Twitter, or answering emails etc. If I’m sitting downstairs for a period of time I will always bring either my phone or laptop, because God forbid I’ll be on the sofa with nothing to do.

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Anyone ever get like that? It’s like an uneasiness that creeps into my stomach and makes me feel like if I’m in bed watching Netflix all day then I’m not achieving anything. Which is SO ridiculous because everyone needs days like that! This weekend in particular got me thinking because it’s a bank holiday, and you always want to just CRAM in those activities to make the most of it- but instead I end up being counterproductive. I’m more tired, the time goes quicker and sometimes I feel worse going back into work.

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Where my boyfriend can sit and play games all day (if I don’t nag him) I’m just totally unable to just watch a show, or meditate, or just sit and spend time quietly.

So, lovely blogosphere, help me out! What do you guys do that helps you not feel guilty for doing nothing on the odd day? I need your advice!


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  1. May 9, 2017 / 8:15 am

    I had a weekend like this last weekend; I just spend the whole day in bed on Sunday, (partly because I was hungover haha) partly because I just didn’t want to do anything. But then I felt incredibly guilty for not blogging, or doing coursework or doing literally anything productive. But then when it got to Sunday night, I realised that the world hadn’t stopped just because I’d been lazy for the day! I think it’s more than okay to have a day off once in a while where you do literally nothing! Thanks for sharing this post, lovely xx

    • lifewithmariaeva
      May 9, 2017 / 8:53 am

      Thanks for reading Chloe! Yes I totally feel the same as you- I always feel guilty for a duvet day ( although I must confess I’ve literally never had a duvet day!) and I feel uncomfortable just sitting and chilling. Maybe it’ll get better when it’s sunbathing weather hehe x

  2. May 9, 2017 / 6:53 pm

    I have one few occasions (can count on one hand) when I have lazed on a sun lounger in the garden. I can loose myself in a book, but that is doing something. Reading. I am one of these that is always on the go. Life is too short and all that. Cramming as much as I can into each day.

  3. May 30, 2017 / 6:31 pm

    I do this all the time. I really had to start focusing on making a change over the past couple of weeks. I was allowing myself to get too anxious and worked up, feeling like I had to be doing blog stuff or writing every second of the day. What has helped me is making somewhat of a schedule. For instance, I’m going to blog for the next hour, no phones, no distractions, just ticking everything off my list in that hour. That way I am being productive. Then i say, right the next half hour i can just watch TV or read a book, or simply cuddle my husband, without thinking about anything else. It’s taking sometime to really relax, but i’m determined to get better at it.
    Lucy xx


    • lifewithmariaeva
      June 1, 2017 / 10:32 am

      Thanks for taking the time to read this lovely, I totally agree! It’s all about taking those little moments isn’t it?

  4. June 3, 2017 / 7:28 pm

    omg Maria this is literally my life! Honestly I’ve never related to a post so much. I get the exact same feelings and I think it is because we are creative and ambitious people. It’s good to want to be productive we both just need to try harder at knowing when to stop and accepting it’s ok to stop!

    • lifewithmariaeva
      June 5, 2017 / 8:34 am

      Yas Beth! It’s so annoying isn’t it?? I just feel like I can’t sit still and just relax. Thanks so much for reading 🙂

  5. June 8, 2017 / 8:21 pm

    I couldn’t agree with this more! I find it so hard to watch anything without my phone in my hand! If i don’t feel busy then I feel bad! But i completely agree why, why do we feel like that we shouldn’t blame ourselves when we don’t do anything. Having a good balance I think works perfectly giving yourself those days off from having a productive week feels amazing! But also if you can’t bring yourself to do something, or to be productive you shouldn’t feel bad either!


    • lifewithmariaeva
      June 9, 2017 / 10:08 am

      I’ve just been drafting up a post about this whole ‘girl boss’ pressure to be doing several things at once and I think that’s really relevant. Its almost like we’re expected to do so many things at once it’s sometimes frustrating! x

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