I was recently reading absolute babe Chloe Plumstead’s post on having blogger friends, and it made me think about the friends I have in real life, versus the friends I have online.
Choker: New Look
Top: ebay (I aint givin’ Kyles ma money)
Let me paint a picture for you, so you can get to know me a bit more because you know, we’re friends now. I’m someone whose kinda been envious of those girls who I went to secondary school with, who’ve managed to maintain tight bonds with their peers for over a decade now. I’ll scroll through Facebook and they’re having a 20-woman reunion, but it’s not really a reunion because they went out for brunch together last week. Okay so they might all still live in the same town whereas I have moved away, but it still gets me thinking about my friendship statuses, and maybe what that says about me.
At Uni, although I had a great course which I loved, my friendships weren’t solid in the slightest. I found myself floating aimlessly from group to group, trying to find someone I could connect with but there was never really anyone I felt completely got me, you know? Graduating meant a fresh start, and although I’ve picked up a few friends in the places I’ve worked, it’s so difficult with everyone moving to different cities and even different countries.
I don’t know whether it’s just me, but I just have such a hard time with friendships. I feel expectations from people and when I’m disappointed I feel like I hurt way too easily. After growing up in an environment where I never really had a connection with more than one or two of my peers, it makes me look towards myself- am I too ugly, am I too rude, am I too silly, am I just annoying?!
I don’t feel like I’m the world’s best person at making friends, but my blogging life and my online presence has really changed the way I look at things. I’ve met some wonderful, beautiful, astounding people who’ve showed me so much love and so much generosity. I’m just unfortunate in the fact that a few of those lovely ladies are across the pond, and it’s pretty much impossible when you’re as broke as me. Gals like Dana (you can read her blog here) and the wonderful Sarah (who I’ve actually met IRL!) have shown me so much love. So is it so bad to kinda like your blogger friends more than your RL friends?
I’ve always imagined I would have at least one close friend IRL, but I know that growing up means you get more precious about the people you choose to spend time with. I’ve decided to say goodbye to any negativity, or any people who use me as a brick wall they can rant at when they feel like it. But I really can’t help feeling like I’m missing out on something? Am I?
Friends you meet through blogging, or just through social media are just as worthy of your friendship than the ones you picked up throughout your life. To me, the precious people I meet through the internet seem automatically supportive of what I do; and that’s why I’m biased I guess. I’ve met such an amazing bunch of people along the way, and I can’t gush enough how great the Instagram community has embraced my weird outfits. From older followers I’d love to be pals with IRL like Laura and Shu, to newer ones like Amyleigh, Maria and Laura– I’m always inspired by you guys!
How about you? Do you have a separation between RL and blogger/online friends?